http://bluesurfer.rediffiland.com/Diary of Peteren-usI analyzed that Diva is following an avoidance tactic towards me. She is ambivalent. On the one hand she likes to have a man like me, but on the other hand she likes the easyness of her recent life.
I will try to help her increasing her willpower for a full decesion about me.


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]]>Thu, 28 Aug 2008 02:15:53 +0530http://bluesurfer.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/28/All-in-all-the-procrastination-decr.htmlI will meet him in the next week. I assume that he will go on like business as usual. He won't talk to me. Even he would try, I wouldn't know what to change. The positions are too far away. He trusts her lies and that's it.

I am having a success! I worked 3 hours on PhD-thesis yesterday.
I tell you: Willpower is a muscle, you can train it! :)

Today I am writing an e-mail to Diva, there I need to describe the future. She declared, that she is not willing to move to my place right now. But in her last e-mail are angst and hope.


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]]>Sun, 24 Aug 2008 14:20:47 +0530http://bluesurfer.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/24/My-soliloquies-conerning-right-now.htmlAt work I can't be no longer nice to my collegues, who belong to the hemisphere of my ex-girlfriend. It's time to change my job.

I am working on PhD-thesis every second day at least for 45 minutes. This is a success. I receive my motivation from seeing my alternatives. The alternative of not working means staying longer in the enviroment of my ex-girlfriend. She still doesn't accept the consequences that she has betrayed and left me.

It seems to be that Diva has absolutly no clue about her social phobia. Recently I am not sure how to explain her my personal unprofessional diagnosis. I will try a meta-communicative way.



Stay on your feeds

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]]>Sat, 23 Aug 2008 00:51:28 +0530http://bluesurfer.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/23/The-world-is-turning-and-i-don-t-st.html
What shall I do, when she doesn't appreciate my opening?
What shall I do, when she doesn't want me?


The questioning

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]]>Sun, 10 Aug 2008 19:25:18 +0530http://bluesurfer.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/10/Towards-Diva-I-open-up-somehow-Tha.htmlIt's clear for me, that I became emotionally dependend on her. She is allready having power over me, she is my hope for a bright and beautiful future. But I need to stop dreaming.
I try to step as much forward to her as I feel I can afford it. I don't want get burned so much anymore like with my ex-girlfriend.

The affords, she is doing, is writing me back after 2. There are no more chats, there is no telephoning at all. I know she is busy with her mother, but I can't see that she also likes to have more.

The plan of visiting me was created during a chat. She made a statement which implied the condition that she is present at my place. I told her that she also expressed that she like to visit me. Did I force her to visit me, then?
A small detail is also there from the end April. I deleted my account at the dating portal where we met. She didn't copy the fotos from my profile to her harddisk. So, she had no more view to me. I asked her, if she owns a copy of my photos some weeks after the deletion of my profile. Why she accepted so easily to have no photos of me?

I email her my postal adress with the reason that she knows a little more by satellite photos in what kind of quarter I live. I also would like to know more about her quarter ... ... ,but I didn't ask directly for her postal adress, because I feared this question might be to personal.
I will ask her for that in my next mail.


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]]>Sat, 09 Aug 2008 23:16:12 +0530http://bluesurfer.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/09/Today-I-liketo-do-a-view-on-my-rel.htmlComing to someone close is a risk, because one might be pushed away. I can feel this risk concerning Diva. But the win can be so high that I like to take this risk.
I am feeling that I am weaker than her. I bear more in emotions in me.


The emotional blue.surfer

P.S.
Writing of the thesis progresses, anti-procrastion-tactics work somehow.
In my soliloquies I explain my ex-girlfriend that she an unacceptable destroying desastrous person.


]]>Thu, 07 Aug 2008 22:18:19 +0530http://bluesurfer.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/07/Coming-to-someone-close-is-a-risk.htmlInitiative!?!Initiative is very complicated matter when a man meets a woman. If the man stays the only acting person in the beginning of a relationship, then he will keep it for the rest of the time with this woman. This means, he needs to do a lot of affords to make sure that she stays on his way.
I am looking for a more cooperative relationship.
Right now I am thinking about what the initiative for actions of Diva might activate or passivate. I am used to built up relationships where I am in the initiative most times, but I like to change this.

My dream is that she becomes my wife and keeps up her free will.


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]]>Wed, 06 Aug 2008 23:51:11 +0530http://bluesurfer.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/06/Initiative-Initiative-is-very-com.htmlstuff for you.
Enjoy and be happy with your results

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]]>Tue, 29 Jul 2008 23:44:05 +0530http://bluesurfer.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/07/29/When-you-feel-guilty-about-that-you.htmlI exptected this allready for a few weeks.

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]]>Mon, 21 Jul 2008 19:23:24 +0530http://bluesurfer.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/07/21/Diva-has-cancelled-out-meeting-at-m.htmlIt's clear. I have a tendency to procrastination. But the origin of procrastinating the finish of my thesis is my ex-girlfriend. It's my job to write this thesis. That's what I am, so I will do it.
The circle is closed.

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]]>Mon, 21 Jul 2008 00:27:27 +0530http://bluesurfer.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/07/21/It-s-clear-I-have-a-tendency-to-pr.html